Every success story is a tale of constant adaption, revision and change.

~Richard Branson

Change is not easy. Many find it hard. We fight to hold on, and we fight to let go. We hold on to what was, or what could have been: to mistakes made, to love lost, and to beliefs that no longer serve our higher good.

Once we get a hold of something, we want it to last forever.

Usually, it doesn’t. People or situations enter our lives to show us what is right or to illustrate what is not. It can last a moment, or it can last for years. Regardless, it typically has a shelf life.

Understanding that everything is in a constant state of transition is our journey of the let go. If we want to make a change, and yet we change nothing, nothing changes. Making a change takes action.

Pressing the ReSet button is a way to start.

When is it time for a ReSet?

  1. Doors keep closing before we can walk through.
  2. We feel low, unenthusiastic, tired, lackluster, or irritable.
  3. Our friends don’t support our growth.
  4. We find a lot to complain about.
  5. There is a feeling of something looming, or we sense there is more to life.

How do we ReSet?

  1. When doors keep closing, it is a sign that we are off our path. It is time for a reassessment. Are our intentions clear on what we want, or are we sending mixed messages to the universe? Are we secretly sabotaging ourselves? Are we ready to step up to the opportunities once the door opens?
  2. Move! Exercise can be as easy as taking a walk. Get outside. Endorphins will kick in and change your energy. Another great shake-up is laughter. Watch a funny movie, go to a comedy club, or get together with some friends for a giggle or a laugh.
  3. Refrain from spending time with those who are toxic, those who laugh at your dreams or tell you things are impossible. Surround yourself with those of like-minds: those who support your ambitions, your quirks, and your free spirit. If you find yourself in a negative situation, politely remove yourself.
  4. When the urge to complain comes up, learn to stop it before it overtakes you. When we complain, we attract things to complain about. When we are grateful, we attract things to be grateful for.
  5. When the feeling of doom and gloom shadow us or the thought that we are at a dead-end, life must be more than this; it is a sign to press Reset.  It’s akin to backing up our computers. We all know it’s imperative to do, and we all know someone that failed to do it. Oops.

When we update our computers, we shut them down to ReStart. The same holds for us. We need a moment to shut down—a time to reflect and reassess the life we envision.

Picture yourself living the life you have always imagined. For those familiar with Marie Kondo and her philosophy about clearing our space, she talks about holding each item in our hands and asking ourselves, “Does this bring me joy”?

The same can be said of relationships and situations in our lives. Ask yourself, “Does this person or situation bring me joy”? If not, what can I change? If there are no changes to be made, take a moment to thank the person or situation for the lessons learned and let them go.

To let go is not about having less. Letting go provides room for more. Picture a container filled with pebbles. The pebbles are our beliefs, behaviors, habits, situations, and people in our lives. Now fill the container with water. The water is us, our lives, hopes, dreams, and desires to live a fulfilling life. Some of those pebbles are necessary and useful lessons we have gained throughout our lives, and others have become obsolete to our growth.

The sooner we let go of what was; those things that have restricted us from becoming more, the quicker we will be more of the person we always dreamt of becoming,

To change can be challenging, or it can be invigorating. The choice is ours. Do you want to make it hard, or do you want to make it easy?  Take the actions to create the life you want; it only takes: a ReSet, a ReStart, and a let go.

Life is really simple, but we insist on making things complicated.  

~ Confucius