“If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it.” This quote was traced back to several publications from the 1800s, though in more recent years it was attributed to Lucille Ball. Regardless of its origin, the message holds. Just as life begets life, energy begets energy. There is a time to do less. But if we have lingered in the “do less” mode for too long, lethargy…
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“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” ~ Dalai Lama Communication is about transferring information. So, when I recently saw a post that said, “I suffer from a disorder when I speak the truth, it pisses people off.” I paused and reread it several times. The person writing it missed a crucial element in communication; being confrontational rarely…
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When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps. ~Confucius Do you announce your goals to the world, or keep them private while you test the waters? Each approach has pros and cons; the manner we choose can vary, yielding different results. If you share goals, what method is best for reaching them? Science suggests the answer isn’t as simple as…
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The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. ~Alan Watts Each year, we leap forward with enthusiasm, believing obstacles will vanish with the turn of the calendar page. We think that with the change of date, the obstacles in our paths will miraculously disappear; life will be different. And you know what? It is, and it isn’t.…
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Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still. ~ a Chinese Proverb. Often, we attach to the illusion of completeness, yet life whispers otherwise. When we think we have everything figured out, the universe tests us to see if we actually do. If we move through it calmly and with mindful consciousness, we can pat ourselves on the back, tallying one more lesson understood.…
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Someone who has experienced trauma also has gifts to offer all of us – in their depth, their knowledge of our universal vulnerability, and their experience of the power of compassion. ~Sharon Salzberg Vulnerability is a topic that awakens discomfort in many, and because of this, I am drawn to it, curious to explore why. Vulnerability should not be mistaken for weakness; it is, in fact, a true measure of…
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Now I think it’s one of the most useless questions an adult can ask a child—What do you want to be when you grow up? As if growing up is finite. As if at some point you become something and that’s the end. ― Michelle Obama Her words remind us that becoming is not a destination but a continual unfolding. Humans prefer certainty and predictability over the pressure of change and…
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In a crowded marketplace, fitting in is a failure. In a busy marketplace, not standing out is the same as being invisible. ~Seth Godin Two cats in the yard, white picket fence, college degree(s), married to the right partner with 2.2 children, XX dollars in the bank. The right car, the right house, the right clothes, the right friends, and, and, and, and. Why do we think our whole life…
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Words cast Spells, thats why its called Spelling. ~ Unknown Every day, we cast spells without candles or rituals, simply through our everyday phrases, such as “no problem” or “that’s okay.” Language holds power; it flows like a stream. By selecting our words intentionally, we determine the atmosphere in which we exist. This concept isn’t just poetic; it aligns with energetic principles. Each word we utter creates a vibration…
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I’m not an optimist. I’m a realist. And my reality is that we live in a multifaceted, multicultural world. And maybe once we stop labeling ourselves, then maybe everyone else will. ~Octavia Spencer Everywhere we turn, there’s a statement about who we are—based not on our being, but our doing. And often, those statements trace back to childhood trauma, as if our adult choices are merely echoes of early…
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